The Man
So I met a man who was interested in me or so I thought. Surprised the hell out of me, that's for sure. Most people would label me "intense" upon spending any time in my presence, what they really mean is angry, suspicious and negative. My few redeeming qualities? I'm fairly smart, super irreverent and I've built up a decent sized business out of a ridiculously small amount of money....by being a workaholic with unrelenting perserverence. And I'm attractive, I work out a lot to keep myself that way. Good wardrobe too. Enough with my pseudo personals ad.
I liked him even though I knew very little about him personally. He seemed to be interested in some of the same things that I was...notably the environment, how pissed of we both are about our government, our intense dislike for a certain sitting president and his satanic minions. He seemed to have strong values. He had encyclopedic knowledge of music and movies. I do not know much in those areas, but willing to learn. He had a great sense of humor, albeit a little frat-boyish. But I was willing to forgive that, I wasn't sure if it was nerves or bad judgement in humor. Anyway, I was hopeful. I own a company, he is professionally a complete opposite, which I liked. Sometimes you just don't want to be around people who talk about business all day, and that's what I've been around for the last seven years.
Today I counted the e-mails we have sent to each other over the last month. 95. I don't send 95 e-mails to my closest friends in a month. I've never had a date with him. He once sort of weakly said he was going to a movie in my neighborhood and if I would like to attend. I had to say no as I was working and it was the Christmas season, our busiest time. I'm always working. But we've been flirting via-email. So I've been essentially obsessing over a person that I've never had a date with, and probably never will. He never telephones me, and when I suggest that the telephone can be helpful, he always says he will call in the future and never does. I think he probably has a girlfriend, he seems to be away most nights and never divulges any personal details. I think that he is probably away with her skiing this weekend. Don't know for sure, but I suspect. Can't be too jealous, we haven't had a date yet.. But it doesn't feel good. I seriously doubt that she knows that he e-mails me regularly, which makes him essentially a dick. Why do I fall over obviously problemmatic people? So annoying. Maybe I should stay out of the dating world.
It's simply too flaky out there. I blame My Space and other social networking sites. Seriously. Too many men have too many options, and many women these days don't ask for respect. They seem to have an implicit knowledge that the boy will probably stand her up or flake out in some way. He has lots of other options. My female employees are perfect examples. They are young, attractive, articulate and they find their men through My Space. I have never seen a group of women that are stood up on dates so much or are treated badly if they refuse to sleep with the man right away. They tell me stories, they ask my advise. Sometimes hooking up can have consequences, namely that men can get the sex, and go on really, really easily in the world of web socializing. It shouldn't be that easy. Not that women don't play the field too, but most times they don't want a one nighter. And they don't like being lied to, no one does, but that's the game out there right now.
So today I disabled the e-mail address that he was using to contact me. No explanation, nothing. Just disabled it. It's just been going on too long with no apparant benefit. If nothing else, I will show self-respect. Even if it takes me 95 e-mails and a month of wasted time and energy to demand it.
Now that's sad
I liked him even though I knew very little about him personally. He seemed to be interested in some of the same things that I was...notably the environment, how pissed of we both are about our government, our intense dislike for a certain sitting president and his satanic minions. He seemed to have strong values. He had encyclopedic knowledge of music and movies. I do not know much in those areas, but willing to learn. He had a great sense of humor, albeit a little frat-boyish. But I was willing to forgive that, I wasn't sure if it was nerves or bad judgement in humor. Anyway, I was hopeful. I own a company, he is professionally a complete opposite, which I liked. Sometimes you just don't want to be around people who talk about business all day, and that's what I've been around for the last seven years.
Today I counted the e-mails we have sent to each other over the last month. 95. I don't send 95 e-mails to my closest friends in a month. I've never had a date with him. He once sort of weakly said he was going to a movie in my neighborhood and if I would like to attend. I had to say no as I was working and it was the Christmas season, our busiest time. I'm always working. But we've been flirting via-email. So I've been essentially obsessing over a person that I've never had a date with, and probably never will. He never telephones me, and when I suggest that the telephone can be helpful, he always says he will call in the future and never does. I think he probably has a girlfriend, he seems to be away most nights and never divulges any personal details. I think that he is probably away with her skiing this weekend. Don't know for sure, but I suspect. Can't be too jealous, we haven't had a date yet.. But it doesn't feel good. I seriously doubt that she knows that he e-mails me regularly, which makes him essentially a dick. Why do I fall over obviously problemmatic people? So annoying. Maybe I should stay out of the dating world.
It's simply too flaky out there. I blame My Space and other social networking sites. Seriously. Too many men have too many options, and many women these days don't ask for respect. They seem to have an implicit knowledge that the boy will probably stand her up or flake out in some way. He has lots of other options. My female employees are perfect examples. They are young, attractive, articulate and they find their men through My Space. I have never seen a group of women that are stood up on dates so much or are treated badly if they refuse to sleep with the man right away. They tell me stories, they ask my advise. Sometimes hooking up can have consequences, namely that men can get the sex, and go on really, really easily in the world of web socializing. It shouldn't be that easy. Not that women don't play the field too, but most times they don't want a one nighter. And they don't like being lied to, no one does, but that's the game out there right now.
So today I disabled the e-mail address that he was using to contact me. No explanation, nothing. Just disabled it. It's just been going on too long with no apparant benefit. If nothing else, I will show self-respect. Even if it takes me 95 e-mails and a month of wasted time and energy to demand it.
Now that's sad
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